Here Comes the Sun!

30 05 2011

Here comes the sun.  Doo doo doo doo.
Here comes the sun
And I say
It’s all right.

The Beatles

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The Sun has finally decided to come out to play.  Apparently, in Montreal, there is a long, long Winter that even locals never get used to, and then there is possibly one week of Spring as we transition directly into scorching Summer.

WELCOME, SUMMER!

This Sun melts away all thoughts of Winter, and I guess that’s why people continue to live here for their entire lives.  The beautiful Summer, with all the festivals (the Just for Laughs & the International Jazz Festival are but only two examples) and Formula 1 racing and the recent opening of the Six Flags member La Ronde, totally woos your heart and wipes your brain of all memories of that dreadful Winter, and by the time Winter’s back, your lover has already convinced you to stay another year.

In short, this Summer Sun, with all its associated culture, is why I decided to come to Montreal.

So please – stop reading this blog right now and go outside.  It’s 8 PM and it’s still beautiful and warm here.   Take in that energy and go drink on the terrasse, take on the ridiculous roller coasters at La Ronde, get some fresh groceries at the Jean-Talon market, or just walk down the street and check out all the happy, relaxed, fun-loving people that represent the essence of the real Montreal.

If you’re not in Montreal and it’s not sunny right now, pick a sunny day (it’ll happen soon!) and remember what that happiness feels like.

Remembering what this natural energy feels like, and realizing that we can feel like this all the time if we choose to, allows us to take on the world, even when it isn’t sunny inside or out.

I haven’t blogged in a while in large part because I haven’t felt motivated to.  In fact, I’ve been feeling a little sluggish.  But voila, out comes the Sun and here comes a post!

I know some of my very good friends are graduating and/or closing one chapter to pursue the next chapter in their lives in one way or another, and I hope they leverage and always keep with them the warmth, radiance, and optimism of the brilliant Sun to bravely make these new beginnings and carry themselves through.

With the Sun and your magnificent brain, you have all the tools that you need.





The Power (& Responsibility) of Idea-Sharers

25 04 2011

The cartoon above is by David Horsey, from the Seattle Post-Intelligencer.

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“An idea is like a virus: resilient, highly contagious.  The smallest seed of an idea can grow. It can grow to define, or destroy you.”
Inception (2010)

It is worth mentioning, again, that vaccines have been scientifically proven over and over to not be a cause of autism.  I mention this here today because even though the original scientific paper that suggested MMR vaccinations as a potential cause of autism has been retracted, and the author completely discredited, this idea is still alive and well today.

An article by Generation Rescue (the anti-vaccine organization supported by Jenny McCarthy) published a month ago (March 30, 2011) protested a new vaccination requirement against pertussis, diphtheria, and tetanus in California, with one argument being that there was no diphtheria outbreak last year in the US.  Yes, there was no outbreak, but that’s because widespread vaccinations largely eradicated this illness in many industrialized nations.  If herd immunity (i.e., the vaccination of a significant portion of a population provides a measure of protection for individuals who have not developed immunity) did not exist to protect the entire community, illnesses like diphtheria would be allowed to return to our communities.

But my post today is not about the ridiculous arguments against vaccinations, or how these incorrect notions are extremely detrimental to public health and our society, though I’m always happy to be part of those conversations.

No, my post today is about the infectiousness of an idea, just like they described in the movie Inception.  An individual’s ideas can determine the course of one’s life – his or her ambitions, decisions, careers, and passions.  A society’s ideas shape a community’s laws, morals, dreams, and beliefs.

Barack Obama arguably became the President of United States because of a campaign of ideas: “For Obama is a man who recognizes the power of ideas, and in particular the idea of hope.”

China bans Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, and censors Hong Kong news when it mentions certain instances of rebellion against the government, because they are afraid of the spread of ideas.  Every city in China has a mayor in charge of maintaining and solving the problems of the city, but every city also has an appointed governmental official more powerful than the mayor, in charge of maintaining the minds and political beliefs of the citizenry so they are in line with what the Chinese government wants.

I mention the above as examples of how powerful ideas are, and how they shape our world.

Ideas can obviously be used for both good and evil (yes, and shades in between), and I believe it is this notion that TED talks were predicated on.  TED is all about “ideas worth spreading”: free talks available online given by great thinkers and doers, challenged to give the best talks of their lives.  I value TED for its inspiration and their belief that good ideas belong free to the community so that they can be built upon by others, but most importantly, I see TED as an organization that promotes ideas that are well-founded and truly novel over ideas that are fear-mongering and false.

It is because of my shared passion of discovering and spreading good ideas that I decided to get involved with the 2011 TEDxMcGill, an independently-organized local event in the Montreal and McGill communities that is licensed by TED.  My hope is that we will find some undiscovered, phenomenal idea-sharers in our community and help propel their thoughts to the world.

If you are similarly passionate about the power of ideas and you’re interested in volunteering with TEDxMcGill this year, please check out www.tedxmcgill.com and apply before the end of this month (April)!

This was a well-disguised promo piece, don’t you think?

I leave you today with two TED talks.  The first is about the dangers of denying science (where the anti-vaccine movement is featured).  The second is about how science can answer questions of morality.

Good ideas, in my opinion, are not necessarily ones that everyone will agree upon or even believe in 100%, but they are thought-provoking and relevant conversation starters that change an individual or community’s perspective on matters of daily importance, based upon sound evidence and building upon previous ideas of the world.

Thus, I present the two TED talks below because they certainly are fascinating thoughts…

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Reminder: Have Fun! @ Now

17 04 2011

For my recent audition for another McGill musical, I chose to do a comedic monologue for the first time in my life.  And I performed it with a Southern accent, which I had never tried doing before.  Since I have little experience with either accents or comedy, I would normally stay away from trying something so novel, especially when the goal is to try to get a part in a show with this monologue, so why did I do it?  Why didn’t I do something that was safe and that I knew I could do?

Well, the first part of the answer comes from my vocal coach, who has been helping me to sing all of these different styles of rock music for the med school rock band that I’m in (in preparation for the med talent show at the end of May), and she forced me to realize that the essence of rock music is freedom and authenticity and not having a right answer or following the rules all the time.  I am, for the most part, a classically-trained singer, so it has always been about technical precision and perfect control of my voice.  My mentor, however, got me to understand that if I am to be any good at rock music (and this includes Zeppelin, AC/DC, the Beatles, etc.), I need to be able to let go of trying to be perfect and focus on having fun and enjoying the beat and the rhythm and just being the music.

My job was to have fun, and it really was freeing to take risks with my voice.  I surprised myself multiple times at what I could do.  I sounded like a completely different vocalist than my usual musical theatre routine, and it sounded authentic.  I realized that I never bothered trying to sing rock because I didn’t think I could do it, and I had no idea how much fun I was missing out on.

Through the process, there are times when I kind of relate to Natalie Portman in the Black Swan, because to be “perfect”, she had to let go of the notion that there is perfection.  She had to learn to let herself be and feel the art.  But the comparison here is pretty stretched, because I am not that talented of an artist, and I am nowhere near perfect.

In any case, the second incident that pushed me to try a comedic monologue with an accent for the first time in my life was also in preparation for the talent show.  We have been filming some skits to be played at the talent show, and it has been one of the best experiences of my life, because essentially we spent a sunny day running around outside, acting in and filming ridiculous scenarios and looking marvelously silly.  It was a bunch of friends joking around, giving each other new ideas on how to make something funnier or better in another way, and making films for no other reason than because it’ll be an awesome addition to the talent show, and we want to put on an amazing show because all the money we raise will go to the Starlight Foundation.  Because all the deadlines and expectations were self-imposed, we were free to enjoy the process of creativity, and basically just laughed a lot and produced some great scenes.  It made me realize that comedy is just about taking risks and going big and being silly and not being afraid of making a complete fool of yourself, and most importantly, having the time of your life doing it.

The combination of these recent events allowed me to realize that I don’t know whether I will get into the musical that I’m auditioning for, but I do have a chance to perform and try something completely new and different with the audition monologue.  It’s the only opportunity that’s guaranteed right now, so why not leverage it to challenge myself?

More importantly, this past week has shown me the incredible potential rewards of taking risks and letting myself enjoy being in the moment of the art rather than constantly pondering what I want the art to achieve.  The art will speak for itself and it is an untameable beast that others will take what they want from it.  All I have control over is just being present when I’m in the moment, which, funnily enough, usually contributes to good art.

I learned the joys of letting myself look silly and act silly, and I know now that I have amazing friends who will do it with me, and who will support me every step of the way.  So why the heck not?

And how do I get good at something, anyway, if I’m not actually willing to get my hands dirty and just do it?

But most importantly, if I’m not having fun singing rock music or auditioning for a show, then what’s the point?  I do performing art because it’s my escape from medicine.  If I’m so worried about getting the part in a musical that I’m not even having fun in the process, what is the freaking point?





Facebook Relationships…It’s Complicated.

12 04 2011

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I have never understood why people declare Facebook relationship statuses.  If they are really your friends, chances are they will know that you have a significant other.  If they are merely Facebook friends, why would I need to reveal personal details about my life to them online?  To me, I always thought that it’s perhaps a bit attention-seeking and potentially sets oneself up for acquaintances to ask how you are doing via a wall post after they saw that you are “no longer in a relationship” with so-and-so when they didn’t even know you were with someone in the first place.

So why do people still do it?!

Well, I thought more about it, and a lot of people I respect tremendously have actually declared their Facebook relationship statuses, so I started to try to come up with reasons why.

Perhaps some people declare their statuses as a matter of fact.  If I declare my birthday on Facebook because it’s simply a part of who I am, why can’t other people declare their relationships for the same reason?  Some people would say that putting your birthday online is already too personal, so who am I to judge what other people define as an appropriate level of personal privacy?  I also think for those who are in a long-term relationship (e.g., married, been together for years, etc.), declaring your partner on Facebook is akin to declaring your brother or sister, because they really are family and hopefully permanent fixtures in one’s life.

Then, there’s the argument that some people only add friends on Facebook when they really know the person, so in fact, friends on Facebook significantly overlap with what I will refer to here as “real-life” friends.  In this case, Facebook could theoretically be used as just a quicker way to notify close friends about personal details like relationship statuses, but I still find this method of communication rather impersonal.  That being said, I’ve transmitted relatively important details in my life to close friends and family through Facebook messages and email, so again, who am I to judge?  The difference, of course, is that Facebook messages and emails are more private and personal (I think…).

Finally, there’s the idea that a Facebook relationship status is really a declaration to the world.  Many people realize (although this may be debatable) that once information is online, it is permanent and exposed to the entire globe.  However, they still declare their relationship status with their girlfriend or boyfriend because it’s a sign of love and commitment.  It can be construed as a sign of dedication that someone is willing to announce to the world (and more importantly, their social circle) that she or he is taken.  I imagine it can be seen as a gesture that moves a relationship forward in some eyes, like a promise ring (when those were still popular) or the introduction of the significant other to one’s (in this case, social) network of friends.

To me, though, it seems like such a public way of demonstrating love, but I guess it’s just my problem with accepting that when it comes to how relationships work, to each their own.

What do you think?

In short, I have way too many random thoughts about the implications of social media when I am procrastinating.





The Blessing of Accepting the Inevitable (or How Debt and I Became Friends)

10 04 2011

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For the longest time, I tried really hard to make sure I didn’t use my line of credit.  I tried to find different ways of enjoying life and cutting back on spending so that I could keep my finances in the black and stay afloat of accumulating any debt.

Debt, for some reason, has been ingrained into me as something to avoid at all costs.  At the cost of health, happiness, life.  It constantly stressed me out and I would sometimes not go out with friends or eat something that I wanted to, simply because of cost.

And then something happened.

I had to pay a $5,500 tuition bill for McGill for the summer portion of our first year in medicine.  This simple truth meant that there was no longer a way for me to stay afloat of debt.  Debt became inevitable.

And as a result?

I finally became free.  And happy.

It’s funny how hard sometimes we try to resist the inevitable. Instead of trying to deal with it in a positive way, the process of resisting can often be extremely detrimental: like an ostrich with his head in the sand, impervious to the reality happening around him, but constantly fearing and imagining what is out there.  The reality is often much less scary.

Lines of credit exist for medical students because there are going to be a lot of expenses, especially if we travel in third and fourth year for specialty rotations and residency interviews.  The fact is, though, banks decide to give out these lines of credit because they are confident that we will be able to pay it back.  They don’t tend to throw their money away, so it must mean that debt is simply a normal part of the career trajectory for a lot of future doctors.

It doesn’t mean that I won’t spend wisely and carefully from now on, but it also means that now I can enjoy life without constantly worrying about going into debt.

Because it’s going to happen, whether I decide to worry about it.  Or not.





Deserving Happiness

27 02 2011

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“This is a sweet expression.  Il bel far niente means “the beauty of doing nothing.”…The beauty of doing nothing is the goal of all your work, the final accomplishment for which you are most highly congratulated…There’s another wonderful Italian expression: l’arte d’arrangiarsi – the art of making something out of nothing.  The art of turning a few simple ingredients into a feast, or a few gathered friends into a festival.  Anyone with a talent for happiness can do this, not only the rich.

For me, though, a major obstacle in my pursuit of pleasure was my ingrained sense of Puritan guilt.  Do I really deserve this pleasure.  This is very American, too – the insecurity about whether we have earned our happiness.  Planet Advertising in America orbits completely around the need to convince the uncertain consumer that yes, you have actually warranted a special treat.  This Bud’s for You!  You Deserve a Break Today!  Because You’re Worth It!  You’ve Come a Long Way, Baby!  And the insecure consumer thinks, Yeah!  Thanks!  I am gonna go buy a six-pack, damn it!  Maybe even two six-packs! And then comes the reactionary binge.  Followed by the remorse.  Such advertising campaigns would probably not be as effective in the Italian culture, where people already know that they are entitled to enjoyment in this life.  The reply in Italy to “You Deserve a Break Today” would probably be, Yeah, no duh.  That’s why I’m planning on taking a break at noon, to go over to your house and sleep with your wife.

– Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love (pp. 61-62)

This passage truly resonated with me.

Every time I just go out to drinks or dinners or special events with my friends, there’s a constant nagging at the back of my mind of whether I deserve it, what else I should be doing instead of having fun.

There’s this constant need to keep myself preoccupied, and never forgive myself for not having five projects on the go at any given time.  It’s as if in the midst of juggling balls, letting one go will upset the entire equilibrium, and the whole system collapses.  But is that really a reflection of the truth, or what I perceive is the truth?

Am I deliberately not slowing down just so I don’t have to ask myself these tough questions?

It’s certainly easier to maintain the status quo than to challenge it, and I think this applies, most of all, to our own behaviours, habits, and choices.

Of course, for me, it also ties into the need to make something out of my life.  I feel like I have been blessed with a lot, and there’s the permanent feeling that I’m not doing enough to give back.  Not doing enough to live my life to the fullest.  Not making enough of a difference to my community, my country, the world.

An episode of the West Wing I watched last night was about how the President couldn’t sleep, and thus sees a psychiatrist, who helps him realize that on some level he’s still seeking the approval of his deceased father, and constantly trying to outdo everyone, including past presidents, in hopes of impressing and attaining the love that he never had.

Now, I don’t have the same personal problems that Jed Bartlet has, and I don’t pretend to have delusions of grandeur where I am the President of the United States, and quite frankly I would never want the demands of that job, but I think the jist of his concerns relate to me in some ways.

“They keep moving the goal posts on you, don’t they?
Get A’s, good college, Latin honors…
…get into the London School of Economics…
…get a good teaching job, lvy League school, tenure.
Now you got to publish. Now you gotta go to Stockholm.”

The West Wing (Season 3, Episode 13)

Certainly, there are days when I feel like I’m never good enough.  Never in a place where I can just appreciate what I’ve done.  So preoccupied with the future that the present quickly becomes the past without even a second thought by me.

I know about carpe diem.  I know that I should live today as if it were my last.  And to be fair, I do love life, and I do take the time to have fun and enjoy the company of the amazing people I am fortunate to have in my life.

But there’s this basal level of frustration with myself – a persistent need to keep going up and up and up.  It’s the drive that has pushed me to where I am today, and to continue to grow as a person, but sometimes…sometimes…it’s just tiring and a little overwhelming…you know?

I have no easy solutions, and I don’t think that there are, because I feel like I’ve already changed a lot in terms of trying to be present in the moment, and completely dousing that fire inside of me means changing who I am fundamentally.

It’s just that the fire feels kind of scorching hot, sometimes, and it feels good to write about it…

Balance is easier said than done.





I Am Changing

12 02 2011

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As I wrote a few blog posts ago, January was a month of change and clarity for me.

I’ve deleted the word psychiatrist from the tagline of this blog, not because I no longer consider psychiatry to be one of my top potential medical specialty choices, but because it shouldn’t be the only one.

I took a test on the AAMC’s Career in Medicine website meant to help students explore what specialties might be a good fit for us depending on what type of practice you prioritize (e.g., Do you prefer a practice where you…obtain consultation from other physicians in arriving at a diagnosis?…deal with incurable diseases?…use treatment concepts and procedures that undergo rapid change?).

This test is a little silly in some ways, in my opinion, because often we answer these questions with preconceived notions of what we might want to be, so in some ways the answers we choose are based on certain specialties that we have in mind, so the results that we get are self-fulfilling prophecies based on what we went into the test thinking about.

Regardless, I still think there is value in this online assessment, and here are the results of my test:

47 % Psychiatry
22 % Internal Medicine
19 % Pediatrics (…this is apparently not a word, according to Google spell check…)
5 % Family Medicine
3 % Anesthesiology

After you take the test, the Careers in Medicine website gives you a summary of each of your top recommended specialties, and an interesting part of these summaries is that they actually include what Myers-Briggs personality types tend to be found in each medical specialty!  The funny thing, though, is that understanding myself and reflecting through Myers-Briggs and my friends in December was what helped me realize that I often love planning too much, to the point that I am in danger of being inflexible when it comes to my career and life plans.

But not wanting to narrow my options so early wasn’t the only reason why I decided to keep more of an open mind.  The truth is there is a lot I do not yet know about psychiatry.  I know that I love noticing the speech patterns, paralanguage, and behavioural cues of people around me to infer what’s going on in their minds, and I genuinely want to help those I care about in dealing with personal issues.  What I do not know is whether I would want to get involved on a similarly intense personal level with patients (i.e., not my friends) on a regular basis, but be forced to maintain only professional relationships.  I think that I would be good at empathizing with patients while maintaing emotional and mental distance, but it’s hard to say whether I could maintain it without burning out, or whether I would get bored.

Of course, psychiatry still fascinates me, because ultimately, I believe treating the mind in an individualized and holistic way is what truly heals a patient, and I think individual cases would be fascinating and challenging.

Another consideration, though, is that I think I would be interested in the possibility of moving upwards in the hospital hierarchy, but I’m not sure whether certain specialties are more prone to being promoted to administrative positions.

Finally, internal medicine and pediatrics both fascinate me tremendously.  Internal medicine, because internists figure out what patients have (i.e., diagnose) and they regularly deal with most branches of medicine, so the diversity and puzzle-solving aspects would certainly keep it interesting for me, I think.  Meanwhile, pediatrics involves complicated legal, ethical, and social issues that may often include interactions with parents and social workers to determine the best course of action to take care of a child holistically so that she or he can be in the best shape to live out his or her life, which hopefully will last a very long time.  I think I would love the complicated decision-making that happens with pediatric medicine, but more importantly, I think I would be grateful everyday for the opportunity to give children quality of life that will allow them to become future community and world leaders, making an impact in the world because their health affords them to do so.

I’ve recently even started considering gastroenterology, but I’ll write more about the beauty that is the GI tract in a future post…

In short, my opinion of medicine, and how I relate to it, changes everyday, so pigeoning myself into a corner won’t do me any favours.

So yes, for now, I do not know what type of doctor I’ll become, and that’s more than ohkay.

I am a-changing, indeed…but that wasn’t even even the biggest change that happened in my life in January…

To sign off, I leave you with one of my favourite songs from the musical Dreamgirls, about the beauty of renewal, growth, and the recognition that we need our friends to help us get there…

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The Man Who Stole My TED Talk!

8 02 2011

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Plain and simple.

This man dived into the recesses of my mind, stole my thoughts, strung them together eloquently, and delivered it as a product of his own creation.

An act of thievery of epic proportions if I e’er saw one!

But in all honesty, Nigel Marsh does a phenomenal job in presenting an idea that I always thought would be at the top of my list of potential topics if I was ever to present a TED talk.

His talk is about redefining success in our society, and his suggestion (as well as mine) is that true success should be defined not in terms of money or being the “best” at one thing, but by how well one lives our life in terms of true balance: spiritual, emotional, intellectual, mental, physical, work, life, family, passions, etc.

Being at UBC, specifically being involved with the Student Development Office, really opened my eyes to what balance is, what it means to me, and how I can strive to achieve that.  It’s the reason why I took part in a musical even with med school and research.  It’s the reason why I’m going to start taking dance (contemporary, jazz, ballet) lessons for the first time in my life and pick up yoga again.  It’s the reason why I keep making myself go to the gym three times a week no matter what else (sickness, fatigue, deadlines) might be going on in my life.  It’s the reason why I make time to write this blog, read the news, go to counselling, why I love being with my friends, talking with my family, meeting new people, spending time pursuing new initiatives I have never tried before.

Balance for me, at least at this stage of my life, is often tied to experimenting with new projects and programs, figuring out what it is that I do and do not want as part of my regular routine in the future.  Funnily enough, though, too regular of a routine makes me feel out of balance.  I think this stems from the belief that to do something well, I have to put in my all, but spending so much time on one goal means that I am undoubtedly neglecting other ones.  I guess this constant fear of being off-balance feeds my desire and need to constantly be changing what the current focus of my life is.

Striving for balance keeps me sane, and it’s my pursuit of what I believe is success, which at the end of the day is just doing things that make me happy.

Anyway, I’ll keep this short, because I think Nigel pretty much sums it up in his short video, and I think it is definitely worth a listen!





The Spell of New Year’s

9 01 2011

From the great Calvin & Hobbes!

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I used to make New Year’s Resolutions.  My favourite is usually the resolve to take more photographs.  I remember I tried to make myself take at least one photo every day, but eventually it got too difficult to remember, and I couldn’t always bring my camera everywhere I went (this is before I had an iPhone…).  In any case, in recent years, I’ve stopped trying to make resolutions, because I think for me, they are kind of gimmicky self-promises of wishes coming true based solely on the belief that New Year’s is like some magic wand that drives change just because it’s the first day of the year.

Life doesn’t work that way.

I think my resolutions have not worked in the past because they were just end goals that I wanted, but I didn’t really enjoy the process.  I wanted to have more photos, but I didn’t really want to interrupt every moment in my life by bringing out the camera.  I wanted to eat healthier, but without trying to find foods that were both delicious and nutritious to me, I could only take boiled vegetables for so many days in a row…

My point is that resolutions often fail (at least for me), because they are spur-of-the-moment changes that one may truly want to make, but without wanting to put in the effort or without knowing how to effectively put in the effort.

So I stopped having resolutions.

But then, this year, somehow I’ve made a few big decisions after New Year’s, and I’ve been sticking to them.

So what is going on?  Where does the drive to change our lives after the holidays come from?

For some, undoubtedly, the New Year does offer a symbolic kickstart to a lot of dreams, goals, and ambitions that have been lurking in the back of our minds.  As we realize that we are another year older, and we are reminded every day that we can no longer write or type 2010 or /10 at the top of our page, we realize that we are another year into our lives, and as Neil Pasricha, the blogger of 1000 Awesome Things, says, we only have 100 of them to live, so it’s possible that the New Year may drive us to question ourselves on why we haven’t pursued those passions we have set aside.  And so there is renewed energy and hope for change.

For me, though, I think the reasoning is a little different.  My changes following the start of the New Year seem to have arisen from a clarity of my values, goals, and desires.  Having spent two and a half weeks with amazing people in Vancouver, I had the liberty of time and a relaxed mind to think about what truly makes me happy, and what I am willing and unwilling to sacrifice.

Being away from my normal grind in Montreal meant that I could remove myself, physically and mentally, and critically examine where my life is going and whether or not it is really where I want it to go.  Having deep conversations with my peers about our futures made me really question my own.

The clarity that resulted from all of this is the reason why I have been making changes in my life without writing them down or even really thinking about them.  They’re changes in perspective that only the holidays, along with time with people I love, could have afforded me.

There’s something magical about the combination of being away from our daily routine and being with our loved ones that provides this clarity, and it is this clarity and perspective, in my opinion, that form the true spell of New Year’s, because with the debatable exception of summer, no other holiday mandates, on such an international scale, both such a lengthy vacation as well as time with those who love you.

This wicked spell has certainly done a number on me, but more on its effects on my personal life later…

For now, let me just say: January is the month of change, indeed…

Bonne Année!





Planned Spontaneity

31 12 2010

Ohkay, I admit it. I’m one of those crazy people counselors learn about…the type of person that constantly analyzes people for their Myers-Briggs personality type.

I won’t go into too much detail, but essentially, the Myers-Briggs test uses four dichotomies to measure psychological preferences that individuals have.  The four dimensions are: where do we get our energy from (Introvert or Extrovert), how do we perceive the world (Sensing or iNtuition), how do we make judgments about the world (Thinking or Feeling), and which of our preferences we use when relating to the external world (our Judgment function or our Perception function).  There is a lot of theory involved in Myers-Briggs, and it can get extremely complicated, so if you’re interested, there are a lot of online resources, and if you’re associated with a college or university, your counselling centre or your career services centre should have the official Myers-Briggs test, as well as other more official resources.

To keep it simple for this post, let me just say that after you take the test, the four dimensions gives you four letters that summarize your preferences.  For example, if you’re an introvert with a perceiving preference and you prefer thinking and intuiting, you would be an INTP.  Since there are four dimensions with two choices each, there are (2^4) 16 possible personality types, so the INTP, for example, is sometimes referred to as “the Thinker” personality type.

Before I continue with the rest of this post, let me just write a disclaimer clarifying that the billions of people in this world cannot be categorized into 16 types, and they shouldn’t be.  Myers-Briggs highlights preferences for how individuals act, and if used properly, it can be a wonderful tool to understanding ourselves and the people in our lives, both professionally and personally.  For me, understanding how someone perceives the world differently than me, for example, helps me be a better communicator when I try to “speak their language”, such as when I attempt to explain a situation from their perspective.  I also tend to get less frustrated when I understand where someone is coming from, what his or her motivations are and why they are acting a certain way.

The four letters are also spectrums, so I might be an Extrovert, but I could be very close to being an Introvert, so there are many individuals who would then be much more extroverted than I am.

For a wonderful illustration of what Myers-Briggs is and how it can be relevant to an individual, I highly recommend a dear friend’s recent blog post.  As long as Myers-Briggs is used simply to understand individuals and team dynamics, and not used as criteria for hiring or selecting relationships, it can be a wonderful tool.

With all that theory mumbo-jumbo aside, my entire point of bringing in Myers-Briggs was to explain the thrill of my recent adventures with some close friends.

The last dichotomy in Myers-Briggs, Judgment (J) versus Perceiving (P), can seem like the most confusing of the four.  However, to simplify it, being a J tends to mean that you prefer structure, order, being punctual, scheduled, and organized.  Meanwhile, being a P tends to mean that you prefer spontaneity, flexibility, innovation, enjoying the moment, and as a result, they can tend to be less punctual.  (I tried to be as unbiased as possible when writing these explanations, so I hope I was successful!)

To demonstrate my extreme J-ness, you may have noticed that I have recently been posting much more frequently than I have been. In part, this is because I had quite a few things to share recently. But more importantly, it’s because I gave myself a guideline of posting four times a month, and I only posted twice in November, but five times in September, so I needed to post five times this month to make up for the difference.  And I wanted to finish 2010 without loose ends, so I can start 2011 on a clean slate, without having leftover blog posts to write, which is why I am posting on New Year’s Eve…

This is how much I value structure. This is how crazy I am.

All this to share an interesting story about some of my friends who happen to also be J’s (photo above).

The four of us are all J’s, but that doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate some good, spontaneous fun.  But how to do that?

Well, one of us suggested that we split into two groups of two, and book two full days off, so that one group plans one day without the other two knowing what the plan is, and then we’ll switch for the other day.  We sat around a round table, and we came up with parameters for this planned spontaneity.  First, a budget was set.  Then, guidelines for alternatives to activities that one or more of us may not be entirely comfortable with.  It was amazing how much planning could go into two spontaneous days of fun when you get four J’s together!  There were itineraries and extensive buffer times in case people were late or things didn’t go exactly according to plan.

In short, we absolutely, positively J’ed Up the P, and we are proud of it!

As you can see from the photo above, one day involved going go-karting with karts that could go in excess of 70 kilometres per hour!  The other day involved going to a place that most of us had never been before.  Both days were filled with activities that none of us had ever done, and it was thrilling to be in total control for one day and in complete lack of control on the other day, but knowing that we were in extremely capable hands.

It was honestly two of the most amazing days I have ever had, so if you and your friends happen to be J’s, and you were looking for a different way to have some wickedly, good times, try J-ing Up the P!

P.S. The four of us also spent a lot of our time together talking about Myers-Briggs, which I think is because we also all happen to be NF’s, so we love people, and we love discussing theory!

P.P.S. Happy New Year!!!  Hope everyone has a safe and memorable evening!








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